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Real clarity tools — a survey, a playbook, and exercises — available right now, no purchase required.
A condensed version of the full coaching framework — yours instantly.
5 questions. 3 minutes. Instant insight into your situation.
Answer five honest questions about your current relationship situation and get a personalised read on where you stand — and what to focus on first.
The Survey
Be honest. These questions are designed to surface what's real — not what sounds good.
When you imagine your ideal relationship, does your current one feel like you're building toward it — or away from it?
In disagreements, how often do you feel heard by your partner?
Do you know what you actually need from a relationship — not what you think you should need?
How would you describe the effort balance in your relationship right now?
If nothing changes in the next year, how do you feel about where things will be?
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Exercise 01
Draw two circles on paper — one for what matters most to you in a relationship, one for what your partner has expressed matters to them. Where do they overlap? That overlap is your Third Island. The gap is the work.
⏱ 10–15 minutes
Exercise 02
Write down the last 5 significant disagreements you've had. Now look for the pattern — not the surface topic, but the underlying theme. Most couples fight about 2–3 things, over and over, wearing different clothes.
⏱ 20 minutes
Exercise 03
Finish this sentence honestly: "The one thing I wish my partner understood about what I need is ___." Now ask yourself: have you clearly asked for it? Not hinted, not gotten upset when they didn't read your mind. Asked.
⏱ 5 minutes
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